Here is the idea. If you are being used, that means that you are useful. It is such an interesting journey to take to really look at ourselves and try to figure out what makes us valuable to ourselves and to other people. It requires really looking at ourselves objectively, and also looking at the world around us that we have created.
If we try to see ourselves like a object or a tool that can be used for certain purposes, we will probably discover all sorts of ways to be more creative with where we want to be, grow, and live. This is helpful to see how actually stand out and where we want to stand out.
Here are some questions that are helpful when exploring this thought of, “How do I want to be used?”
What are you generally used for at work, home, with friends? Why do people want you around? What makes you most useful?
How do you feel when you have been useful? What does that mean to you?
What is something you want to add to your “use me for this” list?
The idea is that you want to be used, the thing we don’t want is to be taken advantage of. What boundaries will you set to ensure that you are not being taken advantage of?
How is your community of people useful to you?
What are you missing in your circle of friends, coworkers, acquaintances that will be useful to you?
I encourage you to take note of what is missing for you that could be useful and think about how you want to fill that space. I bet if you add one useful tool, or person, or activity, it will have a positive effect on all other areas in your life.